Living in harmony with our fellow man is one of our basic needs so to live with continuous rejection is a burden too heavy for anyone to carry. Firstly, let me say that in my fifty-plus years in the direct sales business, I have never been rejected in the field. I have been refused on many, many occasions, but never rejected. Is this a play on words, no, certainly not, it is simply making you aware that refusal does not mean rejection.
It’s difficult to motivate yourself if your mind is cluttered with negative thoughts. If you have negative thoughts, and most of us have, then you need to deal with them before you can motivate yourself. Once you have cleared your mind of negative thoughts, you then need to free it from negative thoughts in the future. The people from the behavioural sciences tell us that we are more motivated to avoid pain than to gain pleasure so the pain of fear also needs to be addressed.
When clearing your mind of negative thoughts you need to keep in mind that there is a conscious thought behind every feeling, whether it is a positive feeling or a negative feeling. You can only have negative thoughts about three situations.
What happened in the past is a negative worry which is easy dispensed with when you realize that an event can only affect you in its present state. Once an event passes, it is gone forever and can cause you no discomfort after it has passed. The only way to avoid worrying about what is happening in the present is to look for some benefit, or at least believe that some benefit, will come from that event, which is now making you feel negative. You need to believe that every adversity carries with it the seed of an equal and greater benefit. Once you grasp this profound truth, your life will change for the better, forever.
We all concern ourselves with what will happen in the future, but as I mentioned earlier, an event can only affect you in its present state. If you find yourself worrying about what might happen in the future, you need to ask yourself three questions.